what is this on my page and why am I able to edit it when I didn't write it?

Change is what life is all about, someday you will realize that NOTHING stays the same, everything changes and if you don't have the ability to accept the changes and find your "self" among the changes, then there is really no point in living. Every single person you meet whether it's a homeless person on the street or a new kid at school or a cashier at your favorite store you come in contact with them for a reason, to make you aware of something you weren't already aware of. Everyone is going to ask you to change and only when we have the ability to change will we grow and learn and move on to our next lesson. Now I'm not saying that because the media, friends or relatives tell us we should be skinny with blond hair and fake boobs that we should. Or that its only cool to drink and smoke so we should do that too. What I am saying is that having those people or those things ask us to change is what helps us to determine who we really are. True friends,fake friends, teachers, media, society and complete strangers, all will ask us to change it might be for the better it might be for the worse, but if you weren't asked to you would never know who you are. No matter what your religious views are whether you are a devout Christian or atheist or whatever the purpose of life is to grow and without change growth is impossible. True friends are the ones who ask us to change, who make us question who we are and what we stand for, but are willing to stand beside us if we are unable to change, and they will also be willing to change themselves.

a completely different take.

In life there are 2 kinds of friends the true friends and the fake friends. True friends would never want you to change for them, only fake friends would want that. Life's too short for fake friends. I know it's cliché, but you're lucky if you can't count your true friends on one hand. I would rather only have one or two true friends than a million fake ones. Don't worry about who you are, even if you can't say that to your friends, you wrote it here so you're obviously thinking about it and that it itself is good. I remember people telling me that high school was the best time of your life and you should enjoy it, but that's complete crap. Life get's so much better. It's ok to need friends in there, times aren't always easy and things just seem better when you're not alone walking those halls.

i would say that a friendship is a little give and take... if it is something small that your friend would like you to change then i think it is ok... like i have a friend who thinks that it is perfectly alright to burp and be very "unlady-like"ha.. in public so we asked her to change that because we were getting embarassed, so i think changes that make u better are ok--but not changes that tear down your morals or beliefs or things that make you who you are.. i don't believe in drinking and smoking until the official age limit and some of my friends think that it is perfectly alright to do things like that, but they know i don't agree, so they don't do it around me and so they respect me for that... and i think you do kind of know who you are.. you know yourself well enough to know what you stand for don't let anyone change who you are.. and i as well as many others are still searching for who we are... but i can't promise that you will EVER figure that out... good luck figuring everything out...

That really sucks. Don't listen to those jerks. I bet you'll find someone soon who appreciates you.

I think you may already know who you are, cause even though you won't tell your friends this stuff, you do realize that what they told you was sht. you should never have to change who you are for anyone, people who want to change others are pathetic.why would anyone ask another person to change? there are too many people out there that will like you for you, and you dont need friends to validate who you are. You already know who you are on the inside, and thats all that matters. i have a motto, and it goes; Fckem.....

whoah! its so nice to meet someone who has the same issue as me. i talk proper. i dont curse. i listen to rock and electronic. yeah im different, but some people accept it and some say i am weird or so called "white washed". my advice is to just be yourself. thats exactly what i do. eventually people will respect you for you. the ones that dont are the people you shouldnt be hanging with.

I completely agree with you, I think a friend is someone who accepts you for who you are. I would never want a friend to change who they are for me, and I'd never want to be expected to change for a friend. It makes no sense.

I also know what you mean about needing friends to feel good about yourself. Most of my friends are online, especially since I moved, and I do feel an emptiness, like something is missing.

I don't think you are arrogant or any of those bad things. You have a mind of your own and you aren't willing to change for other people, and I think that is amazing, these days people are too willing to give up who they are.

But I definitely understand the questions of who you are and all, I just joined and I was actually wrote a post exploring that topic a little myself. And I'm sure I will write about it more when my head clears and I can think.

Anyway, if you want to talk--add me and I'll definitely be reading your posts.