It seems to me like you've been backed into a corner here. If I told you I thought you were wrong well then I'd be adding to the assumption that your always wrong and if I told you that you were right I'd be saying that you were stubborn, selfish ect. So maybe I'm saying you have a good idea with a few flaws? I'm seeing that you are still, at heart, the nice guy and you gave it away with "but if im hurting people in the process..." What it comes down to is hurt is part of life. I had to learn this and sometimes hurt IS part of the process to a greater good. Who knows though, maybe I'm always wrong.