Homosexuality and the church.....

Mar 17, 2008 - 23:16 PM PST




SO ....



How to you begin to reconcile your faith with your sexuality?? This is my question- It seems everyone is telling me that if I say Im gay- "That is not who you are" -and "Not who god made you"- and that I struggle because I have a shitty relationship with my dad and that I am searching for "male love" and that is is a legitiamate need but I am fulfilling it in a Illlegitiamate manner. WOW- but see- here is where I really think Christians dont get it- I DID NOT CHOOSE TO BE GAY OR BI OR WHATEVER.....didnt happen folks-sorry if ya think it did- but it didnt- and I bet most gay and lesbians wil tell you the same thing. So on Sunday, I decided to go back to church- well- after the seromon, I ended up in a debate with some of my friends who attend this church and was basically told that I was Sining against God and that if I choose to disobey his laws that this would cause seperation from him and I would basically go to Hell. So here is my issue with that- sin is sin is it not- some may think homosexuality is a huge sin but my question is this-If I never choose it, if i just supressed it because of my own fears of being inadequate,then why is it so wrong? and if I finally decide to not be afraid and say "I am gay" to I not deserve to be loved? Is that a sin? Because the God I believe in- wants me to be happy, and find love, and I still believe he loves me regardless of it all!! And why does the church judge homosexuality as some Taboo sin that is far worse than any other thing ever done in the world?- I honestly dont get it-

So now the fun part, can you be a christian and gay? when the church does not know how to respond to the issue? This is where I am now- trying to swim through this murcky territory- and still find God, Love, peace and most of all- Freedom- Freedom from fear, shame, doubt, loneliness,and guilt--

So gay-straight-bi- whatever- I believe God loves us and wants us to live- and be happy-regardless of what happens with our struggles with homosexuality and the church.......