Rush, Rush

Mar 25, 2008 - 11:27 AM PST

I'm not sure what it is, but I feel like everyone my age is in some kind of rush. A rush to be grown ups and have these lives with their mortgage, kids and marriage. What is the rush that at the age of 25 to be married, own a home, and pop out a kid? It's not like this is the dark ages when you'd only live until the ripe age of 40. We have plenty of time. And besides, why rush to have an infinite amount of responsibility? I can barely handle what I have now. And that's just paying the bills, being in a stable relationship and trying to have a social life on little to no money. Why would I want to throw the stress and debt of a child and wedding on top of that? Don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking marriage or kids. I want both someday. I'm sure that some people have a problem with marriage and thinking that it is an archaic institution or something...blah blah blah... and yes, it kind of is. But I want that commitment. I want the ring ( I like shiny things), I want the party and the celebration of our love with our closest friends and family. Plus, there are tax breaks and joint health insurance and stuff.
I guess the thing is that I have a friend that even though he has not been with this girl 1 year already moved in, bought a house, got married and are now pregnant. You don't even know if you can really stand each other yet! You're still in the blissful stage where you still pack your lunches for each other cause you're so in love and all that. But wait a while. Then let all the little things that drive you nuts set in. My BF and I have been together almost 4 years and we still like each other. Hell, we still even love each other. That's pretty fucking amazing this day in age. I just have a feeling that reality will come crashing down on them when they're irritated with each other and the baby is screaming and their dogs (did I mention they already have 3?) are going bonkers. Good luck guys.
My question I guess is... what is the fucking rush? Why not enjoy being in love and having a good time and stuff? I just want to enjoy things before I get too tied down. Do some traveling, get my career in shape, things like that. I don't know, I guess I just think, it's not broken. Things are good. Let's just enjoy it.