Sex and relationships from My personal perspective.

Mar 03, 2008 - 06:38 AM PST

I am of the school where sex does not make a relationship. I am a romantic. I consider myself a gentleman. In all the relationships I have ever been in all I wanted was someone who I could talk to, someone who would care about me, someone who would stay with me, and let me spoil them and love them, and all I wanted in return was some measure of love. I have never asked for sex in a relationship and yet that is how the modern world describes an active thriving relationship. Sex!

When did this happen? When did it become a prerequisite before any kind of bond could be called a relationship for sex to become involved? My roommate, my friends, half the people at my college and a good number of people I dont even know have commented on what defines a modern relationship. They have all said the same thing to me. "If there is no sex, you're only good friends." Why? Why should sex have any kind of bearing on the definition of how you feel about someone and why is it that if you are not sleeping with someone it is considered over after 2 weeks? Yes, 2 weeks. I have not been in a relationship for more than 2 weeks at a time unless the discussion of sex was brought up. If it was never brought up, and I did not actively pursue the commitment of a sexual relationship, I was dropped like a bad habit?

This gives women a bad name. Why is it you will not date a guy who is not willing to try to sleep with you in the first 2 weeks? Is it because we are too slow? Is it because you feel we are too scared to stay committed if we wont sleep with you? Is it because you think we cant possibly care if we wont sleep with you? Why?

Why is sex such a big deal when the rest of the sexually involved world is crying out to find someone who isnt trying to get into their pants? Pick it one way or the other!