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Tia | Rehoboth Beach, DE • United States , Age 23

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Thank you Lost_in_Place

Feb 12, 2008 - 22:22 PM PST

It does help. Everything you said is just another prove of what I was already thinking. I talked to my teacher also, who is a therapist for years and what he did was just to agree with me, support me and make me feel that I’m not alone, and that is a common problem. I guess he was right. I’ve already decided that I’m going to give them a lesson, by telling them to move out in 3 months, and not to touch my car anymore. It hurts that my brother hates me right now. I’m sure he won’t understand, at least not in the next 20-30 years, before he starts dealing with the same problem with his own children. They have to learn that everything in this life has to be earned. It is hard thing to admit, but that is the reality. The sooner you realize it, the better. I have to let him discover that reality. The guilt I’m feeling is because I have prevented him from that. I and my mom spoiled him. He was growing up getting everything ready. He has never fought for anything. But I’m not going to feel guilty anymore. I’ll give him the opportunity to grow up. If he is not strong enough to do it, it is his own fault and problem.

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Feb 13, 2008 - 05:29 AM

Your welcome. Isn't it strange how two people from the same family can be completely opposite in the way they conduct their life. I'm guessing that the reason your teacher only agreed with you and supported you is because he knew that it was a choice that you and you only could make. No one should make those choices for you. And even though your brother may be so mad at you right now, he will one day understand and possibly even thank you for helping him learn how to stand on his own two feet. Yes, it may take several years for him to realize that but maybe he will surprise you and figure that out a lot sooner. Just have faith that what you did was what you had to do to protect everything you worked so hard to accomplish. I know you can't help yourself but you shouldn't feel guilty, he should be the one to feel guilty for taking advantage of the kindness and good will of his sister who opened her home to him and his girlfriend and also letting them both use her car, yeah he is the one who should feel very guilty. You hang in there, as time goes on it will get easier on your heart and one day you will feel proud of yourself for putting a end to his childish attitude.