What Makes You A Catch

Feb 21, 2008 - 09:52 AM PST

A Catch: (singular) “A person considered attractive, successful or prestigious and so desirable as a partner or a spouse.”

We’ve all heard the term “catch”. It’s an overused word and quite frankly I wish it would omitted from our vocabulary all together. It can be a way to describe a girl or a guy, but what does this really mean and is there any such thing?

The answer is no.

No one is a “catch” across the board. You could be the sexiest, most beautiful, intelligent and well rounded person on the planet and still not be a catch.

Why?

Everyone comes from a different place. Different interests, beliefs, backgrounds, family issues and past experiences, whether they be positive or negative.

All of these things shape and make us who we are while informing our choices in a partner. For better or worse.

Insecurity is another factor. Most people choose based on whatever they are insecure about. This you have no control over, so don’t even try to unpack that one.

If you look at the dictionary explanation of the word, it seems that unless you’re attractive, successful or prestigious, then for sure, you can’t possibly be described as “a catch.” Wow, where shall the rest of the 98% of the population go?

If you’re not attractive, wealthy and prestigious are you destined to a life of being lonely and single? I think not.

Here’s the real answer:
What makes you a catch is when you fulfill the desires and needs of the particular person you are with. This has nothing to do with a generic, cookie cutter idea of what people are looking for.

Here’s a simple and easy way to find out if you truly are a “catch” for that special someone.

Think about this person and consider who they are and how they would want and need to feel with a partner. If you make this person feel this way when they are in your presence, then yes, you are their own personal catch! The same goes for you. Determine what it is you need to feel and see if this person makes that happen. It doesn’t matter what the rest of the world thinks. Only you. Remember, being a catch is a personal matter not a public one.

You can’t win them all and why would you even want to!
Walk away from the people that don’t respond to you and don’t take anything personally. It’s difficult I know, but try. Keep in mind that you too, have said no to a few good men and women. It’s so much easier to navigate the single waters having the full understanding that for every hand there is a glove. You don’t have to be everyone’s choice. You just have to be one person’s choice.

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